My boyfriend is a Mexican American and does not speak Spanish….?
Why do Spanish speaking people seem to get upset when they find out he doesn't speak Spanish?
He was born in California, his parents were born in California and his Grand parents were born in California. His parents speak it, but never taught any of their 6 kids!
He is proud of who he is, his parents just didn't teach him Spanish. People should not treat him differently just because he doesn't know Spanish!
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OK, here’s a bit of psychological mumbo-jumbo. Take it with a grain of salt.
In California, it’s historically accurate to say that the Anglo culture was economically superior to the Mexican culture. Anglos generally had better jobs. A lot of Mexicans have felt inferior to Anglos because they have been at an economic disadvantage.
When someone whose individual history is closer to Mexico than to the USA meets someone like your boyfriend, who’s much longer ties to the USA, they’re going to feel that your boyfriend has a better economic situation merely by reason of his history and not by any merit of his own. (This is opinion, not fact.)
And it’s easier to link your emotional well-being with anyone who’s like you. Someone who has a hispanic surname but is essentially Anglo (through his family’s history) feels like a threat to the hispanic person.
It’s always unsettling when your expectations are unmet.
Because we are very proud of our culture, and we try to preserve it.
I think it is because of the heritage… To have something about other cultures is something that makes you wiser and to deny your heritage is a matter of disgrace…If he chose to speak only English then is his fault but maybe his parents only speak to him in Spanish… or maybe is because something else. Have you asked him?
Eh? I’m Mexican myself and I wouldn’t get at all upset about it. I mean, sure, the mere fact that he doesn’t speak Spanish sounds strange to me, but so what? Maybe he was born a Mexican but moved somewhere else in his early years and simply was never taught Spanish. Whatever. It’s not even my business – why should I get angry over it?
People are weird, and are probably taking their own culture too seriously. Maybe the whole Mexican history and culture makes them feel better about themselves so it is a dishonor not to speak Spanish… oh, I don’t know. That’s just my opinion. I don’t think it’s a big deal!
I usually get upset when I discover someone lose the opportunity to speak two languages, but mostly is the parents fault. They don’t know the damage the make to their kids not insisting they learn their native language.
Maybe that in part is the reason that people can get upset. But this is just my point of view.
Does your boyfriend look more Indio than Latino?
They may be snobs who think anyone who looks Indio and cant speak Spanish is inferior and then they get shocked when this Indio spekas better English than them?
If your boyfriend looks more European than they’re snobs the other way perhaps and think anyone "mexican" who looks like he has no Indio ancestry should have perfect Castilian with no Mexican accent.
I’m Mexican and i try to keep my daughter speak Spanish and English of course, but some people don’t see necessary a second language, they think they look less Mexican if they speak only in English.
On the other side I know "MexAm" (Chicanos) who speak in Spanish
with "Americans" but don’t with Mexicans or "Sudamericanos".
If you understand my poor English (i hope one day make it better) maybe he could speak in Spanish too and don’t feel shame about his roots.
I’m Mexican and when I was little I couldn’t barely speak any Spanish, but as I got older I began to learn more Spanish. So basically what I’m trying to say is that to give him a little more time to learn and eventually he will speak Spanish.
I think Mexican people are brain washed… Sad to say… They are so blind and misinformed.
Mexicans are perceived ignorant because they continue to defend Spain who basically destroyed them as people and nation. Spaniards today are even racist towards them because they look like indians and they speak Spanish badly compared to them. It’s stupid!!!
Why do they continue to complain about the United States racism towards immigrants??? The Spaniards are just as bad. When Spain should pay them refuge back for all detrimental damages and slandering image of their people during the Spanish Inquisition. Mexicans suffer from emotional baggage like depression, but they are in denial. In the name of God, the Spanish Satanic Catholic Cult killed, rapped, slandered, and robbed the natives in the most humiliating and deprecating way. Why is Spain not taking responsibility for their actions?? You can be light skin or white, the moment you say you are Mexican everyone who speaks Spanish looks down on you. Educate your minds. You should be atheist and speak English instead… it’s a better choice, you would get better jobs in the U.S… so Stop complaining. You guys are sell outs to begin with, you rather speak Spanish than Native indian dialect. You gave up on your real traditions. You act like wannabe Spaniards when the Spanish hate you even more now because you are part of a history, they wish they could erase. They hate to be reminded of their evils. You guys practicing being catholic is setting you people back. Wake up people, you guys are traders and sell outs from the beginning. You guys are a made up race. There are only three races White, Black, and Asian in the universe. Asians mixed with blacks = indians then white (spaniard fuck them)=Mexicans( Mestizo). Change yours ways and step up to the plate. Stop supporting Spain and Catholic religion, they don’t care about you. They make money off your stupid dumb brain washed asses. It’s a jewish religion for the poor peasant… they wrote in hebrew then translated it, it was not written by God. You guys are misinformed. You did not even exist then, and no where in the bible does it mention a mexican, you guys are not considered jews trust me, that’s even offensive, you believe everything, no wonder they took your gold for being stupid. This is an insult to your ancestors stop trying to side with the white race. Be original. Adam and Eve bullshit is a bunch of crap. No wonder other countries take advantage of you because you are cheap labor. Most mexican immigrants are slaves who get paid less than the minimum and work you ass off for nothing in return… just bad depressing life and health and fake smile in the end. Hispanic or Latino or Mexican names are offensive… Cubans, Puerto Ricans, South Americans are so fake as well, Spaniards are Nazis… german influenced they hate Muslim, and Jews they are Anti- semitic … Read History.
Pick another Aztec Name for country in memory of the natives who died or Aztec God name would be better. Learn from your mistakes in History make a change.
Modern Mexicans who have money in Mexico and might look more european like have a better education than the poor indians due to racism, social class and political standards… The education there is available for those who can afford it, can’t even compare to the United States education. Mexican people are smart when educated, they make great business men plus they like to work for their money and believe in family traditions.
The Politics suck in Mexico, it’s corrupt. Mexicans hate their own people. Mexicans from the U.S., don’t have the same quality of education as someone who is rich in Mexico… might have better advantage and opportunities in U.S. than a poor mexican immigrant for sure. The education in the United States is poor, but there’s more opportunities. Rich Mexicans in Mexico mimic Europeans, they like quality and abundance like Americans (the bigger the better). They may have accents, but they can be understood in English and speak perfect Spanish even if other Spanish speaking countries discriminate them due to jealousy of their resources… and the fact that the U.S. sides with them more and is part of North America.
It would be nice if Mexicans were united but they are not they are competitive, racist and hatred exist… It’s nonsense. They even hate U.S. Mexicans especially when they refuse to speak Spanish and if it’s broken Spanish they criticize and look down on them,